Episode 24
Roman Mironov on Being Version 2.0 of Yourself
This week, I sit down with Roman Mironov of Be Version 2.0 of Yourself, a show that helps people create amazing and enviable relationships, and be a better you.
On his podcast, Roman shares advice to and from people making a personal journey, as well as why our minds are synced the way they are, and how we can improve that.
Topics up for discussion this week include:
- how his podcast originated as a marketing channel for him
- why he is very specific about the type of guests he has on his show
- why he had to skip an episode when his guest went too far off topic
- how a communications coach gave Roman some of the best advice he's had
- how his episode about eating one meal a day is his most popular
- why he looks at his lifestyle as an ongoing experiment
- why he fasts for 22 hours and eats for the two hours in-between
- why he really wanted to move to North America, but didn't account for the severe loneliness
- how the Covid pandemic and lockdown has made him extremely grateful
- how personal pain helps him connect more closely with clients
- why personal resilience is key when it comes to dealing with pain
- why he's given up masturbation
- why associating pleasure with pornography is so dangerous
- why Arnold Schwarzenegger is such an inspiration to him
- why we all have the potential to be great at what we want to do
Join me for a wide-ranging chat on life, loneliness, pain, shame, and being the best version of ourselves.
Connect with Roman:
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Transcript
You know, you see masturbation in it, of itself. It
Speaker:oftentimes is not a real problem. The problem is that
Speaker:when you rewire your brain to associate sexual pleasure with
Speaker:poor and mess, and in your hand, rather than normal
Speaker:sex, Andy, because many people start to have this started
Speaker:this habit in the teenage years, it becomes so ingrained
Speaker:that it's so difficult to get it out of their
Speaker:head for later. So I always encourage parents to have
Speaker:this conversation about masturbation as, as early as well.
Speaker:Hi, and welcome to Podcaster Stories each episode, we will
Speaker:have a conversation with podcasters from across the globe and
Speaker:share their story. What motivates them by the start to
Speaker:the show are the crucial And More will also talk
Speaker:about their personal lives and some of the things that
Speaker:have happened, I've made them the person you are today.
Speaker:And now here's your host. Danny Brown hi, and welcome
Speaker:to Podcaster. Stories where we meet the people behind the
Speaker:voices of the shows we're listened to this week. I,
Speaker:in China with Roman Mironov host of the Be Version
Speaker:2.01 of Yourself a show that helps people create amazing
Speaker:and enviable relationships and be a better you Roman welcome
Speaker:to the show. We were just chatting. They are a
Speaker:lot about, you've been to Toronto, so not too far
Speaker:from me.
Speaker:So well, how about you introduced yourself and your podcast?
Speaker:Hi, Danny, first of all, thank you so much for
Speaker:having me. It's a pleasure and a privilege, and I
Speaker:am in a relationship coach and the life coach working
Speaker:from Toronto. I, in general, I help my clients build
Speaker:better lifestyle, a healthier lifestyle, a happier lifestyle. And my
Speaker:podcast has also about that is, as you said, is
Speaker:to be version 2.0 of Yourself and it's all about
Speaker:great relationships and being kind to yourself and being a
Speaker:real the best. What do you can be?
Speaker:I know you had mentioned there that you help your
Speaker:clients be a better for them, and that comes through
Speaker:in a healthy, eating healthier live and et cetera. And
Speaker:I know you're also a big believer in end up
Speaker:yourself with your own journey and your own health journey,
Speaker:which will obviously talk about it as the show goes
Speaker:on. But how did you come up with the idea
Speaker:for the podcast itself? Was it natural progression from your
Speaker:coach at work or is that added on to it
Speaker:as a value on it?
Speaker:For sure. I started the podcast and in order to
Speaker:market myself using it as a marketing channel. So I
Speaker:basically started growing as a coach taking my training, starting
Speaker:work for the, my clients. And in parallel I was,
Speaker:I started the podcast. So they, they sort of compliment
Speaker:each other because I use the ideas from my coaching
Speaker:and the examples from my coaching and the podcast. And
Speaker:the idea is that come up when I, you know,
Speaker:record my, my, my show, I actually then write them
Speaker:down and use them in my coaching sessions, all that,
Speaker:because
Speaker:I was gonna ask you about that because obviously, you
Speaker:know, you have a podcast started in the summer of
Speaker:2019, July, 2019 was the first episode. And originally it
Speaker:was just you and then the pot that are on
Speaker:the show, but recently you've been bringing on more guests
Speaker:to, to discuss their lives and to discuss their healthy
Speaker:habits. So what's the process of the site in which
Speaker:guests come on and how that sort of, he eats
Speaker:and to our, our, our flows over to you or
Speaker:your business life, so to speak.
Speaker:Okay. So first of all, I decided on the topic
Speaker:that I wanted to cover it in to one of
Speaker:the next episode, then I look For for a person
Speaker:who is ready to talk about that episode. And especially
Speaker:that this is a little bit difficult because actually I
Speaker:want to go into, into specifics and I don't, I
Speaker:don't want to just chat about general stuff. I want
Speaker:to be very, very, like pick up one thing. I
Speaker:like being very good in your communication over, you know,
Speaker:different online channels. And I want us, I want the
Speaker:conversation to focus on that. And the problem is that
Speaker:actually made it guests.
Speaker:They want to focus either on themselves or on something
Speaker:that they're is selling or just a general topics. So
Speaker:this, this makes it challenging a little bit. Right.
Speaker:And, and obviously you, you, as you mentioned, you have
Speaker:come up with a Topics, have you ever had to
Speaker:like, not publish a show because of the guests has
Speaker:veered off of it that much to try something of
Speaker:a background as a promotional stuff, or is that everybody
Speaker:has been pretty good to get to go on that
Speaker:Beautiful question because he has, I have that kind of
Speaker:experience with, with the one gas, because I tried to
Speaker:keep her, I may maybe even to guests, I think,
Speaker:I think the, the, the first one is, it was
Speaker:just completely the WWE, like when she kept going back
Speaker:to her, like to her products or services, and it
Speaker:just did not, did not offer much value. Yeah, that's
Speaker:true. And the, and the second one, I think, should
Speaker:I try to keep her on the topic, but she
Speaker:was, she was, you know, going to Gen things about
Speaker:her or a failed marriage.
Speaker:So it, it didn't, I, and I wanted to keep
Speaker:talking about a breakup, like going over the break up
Speaker:specifically, but she was just, you know, to all over
Speaker:the place. And I appreciate it that, but I mean,
Speaker:I want to deliver value to my audience and I
Speaker:didn't feel that I could do that with her, with
Speaker:the interview that were recorded or not. I, I D
Speaker:I don't want to be, I don't want to come
Speaker:across as a disrespectful, but I'm, I'm all about the
Speaker:value. And I say it in a high, a high
Speaker:quality of content, rather than Josie, you know, recording one
Speaker:or two hours of Gen stuff that no one wants
Speaker:to listen to it.
Speaker:All right.
Speaker:And, and I think honestly, because of your type of
Speaker:shoe as well, that the value has to be there
Speaker:for your listeners, because it's an in their relationships in
Speaker:their health and they, or their life. So if someone
Speaker:is giving the wrong advice or just push an agenda
Speaker:for want of a better word that fits into their
Speaker:own promotional stuff, that's not going to be equitable in,
Speaker:you know, lead to damage and the results for your
Speaker:listeners, I guess.
Speaker:Mmm. Well, sometimes maybe, you know, people come, people do
Speaker:come off as guests with generally a positive messages and
Speaker:they are offering great. CA, I really good advice. The
Speaker:problem is that it is not a real specific to
Speaker:specific enough for my show or four, the topic that
Speaker:I wanted to discuss, that's it, it's, it's really about
Speaker:just, you know, being, being too general and not being
Speaker:too specific, not being too practical.
Speaker:You know, obviously now that you've got guests, there will
Speaker:be bringing in a, a lot of additional information and
Speaker:experiences that you've been sharing as well, you know, from
Speaker:your own life and from your earlier types of the
Speaker:podcast, what what's been some of the things that maybe
Speaker:you've learnt from your guests that you've taken and to
Speaker:your own life and, and, and improved, or in an
Speaker:area, or to change something because of something that your
Speaker:guest's brought up. I think
Speaker:I like one of my recent episodes with a coach
Speaker:or a communication coach as well. It should talk to
Speaker:me a lot. What are the things that should I
Speaker:talk to me is to actually be on the video
Speaker:when, when you communicate with anyone online, if it can
Speaker:be on the video or do it because of the
Speaker:video ads too, the communication so much more, because it
Speaker:introduces all those nonverbal communication pieces that we miss when
Speaker:we just talk over a voice, however, however, don't let
Speaker:the things stop you like, or don't over commit to
Speaker:VTO to the point where you say, okay, I don't
Speaker:have, like, I don't have 30 minutes to go all
Speaker:in on a full video call.
Speaker:So I won't do it at all. Now, if you
Speaker:have five minutes and you want to do just an
Speaker:audio call, do it, lets us do it. And also
Speaker:one, one a good piece of advice she gave was
Speaker:What that he actually needed to be more expressive, fun
Speaker:with the line of communication, because we tend to be
Speaker:more robotic, more reserved when we talk online versus offline.
Speaker:So we need to remember about this and it really,
Speaker:really put in more effort than just, just be more
Speaker:expressive, smile, more, make more gestures, just, yeah,
Speaker:No, I like that advice as well. Obviously we are
Speaker:recording. We have SquadCast at the moment. And one of
Speaker:the reasons I like that, it it's got to the
Speaker:screen room that we were using, where it's a video
Speaker:option we don't use. And a video of it will
Speaker:be an audio show obviously, but the video option is
Speaker:here. And to your point, they just seeing someone's I
Speaker:reaction because then you think you can tell, as you
Speaker:mentioned, we miss that nuance there. Oops. I may have
Speaker:said something there that it's actually insulted my guests without
Speaker:realizing it. Or you get just a more dynamic interaction
Speaker:between people, I think. Exactly. Yeah. It's,
Speaker:It's the right of word interaction. It really is. It
Speaker:triggers a, it, it, it helps you be more emotional
Speaker:and then the other person reads this off you are.
Speaker:And also it becomes a more emotional and that just
Speaker:increases the intensity of communication makes it, it makes it
Speaker:more fun.
Speaker:So if I do, you know, your show has been
Speaker:gone for about a year and a half now. So
Speaker:July, we are mostly going to have to think, have
Speaker:there been any episodes that have stood out in particular
Speaker:for you and if so, why that episode or are
Speaker:these episodes?
Speaker:It's my most popular episode, about 81 meal a day,
Speaker:way more people listen to it and to watch it
Speaker:on, even watching it on a YouTube. I mean, I
Speaker:put it on as a YouTube video right now. I
Speaker:think it was like 1300 people watched it, which is
Speaker:like really insane for at least for my show
Speaker:That was going to ask you about that. 'cause one
Speaker:of the things that you've done as you've, you've had
Speaker:a complete change of lifestyle from your earlier years where
Speaker:you are, you have changed up your eating habits, your
Speaker:healthy and live and habits. And you'd mentioned just know
Speaker:that you have one meal a day, which is you
Speaker:can fall in a keto diet. Is, is that correct?
Speaker:Or did you snuck as well? Or are you, how
Speaker:did you know a snack? Is it just the one
Speaker:meal? And then you've just missed snacks all together because
Speaker:I had really missed snacks. I'm just curious though, if
Speaker:it's a stricter regime, if any of your life,
Speaker:Absolutely. No snacks, only water, that's it just water. It
Speaker:won't be,
Speaker:If you decide to take that, was it a health
Speaker:issue or did you just look at how you were
Speaker:eating and living that you decided to change or how
Speaker:long
Speaker:A, you know, Danny, first of all, I look at
Speaker:this as an experiment. So I've been taking this experiment
Speaker:for more than a year. I felt good about it.
Speaker:And maybe I will change my mind. I don't know.
Speaker:I don't know. There are like pros and cons for
Speaker:me, the best thing is that it lets me compartmentalize
Speaker:my life. So I started with in the first part
Speaker:of my day, I work that the second part of
Speaker:my day is I exercise. And the third part of
Speaker:my days rest where I actually have my meal. This
Speaker:is this one meal. So it helps me like really,
Speaker:really be effective. And it's not really affect that made
Speaker:me be efficient. See, because I didn't want to break
Speaker:my first part of my day, which his work by
Speaker:Niels for me, this is the biggest benefits.
Speaker:And they also say there are health benefits to it.
Speaker:And I, I think those benefits are pretty valid. And
Speaker:one of them was that actually you managed your insulin
Speaker:better because the fewer times that you need you're in
Speaker:the date and the less often are you releasing insulin
Speaker:and insulin, his bad for you. And is it,
Speaker:So is that it's so the one meter that you
Speaker:have is that like a larger meal to account for
Speaker:that, and then the non or other meals of your
Speaker:Lake, or does it sort of still a standard set
Speaker:aside?
Speaker:No, of course it's larger because I, I need to
Speaker:get the Keller's in right day to, and I know
Speaker:A lot of people, I'm not sure that you've tried
Speaker:it now. I know a lot of people are doing
Speaker:intermittent fasting. So I guess that's kind of similar to,
Speaker:to your point, or is it a little bit different?
Speaker:Exactly. It is an intermittent fasting. So my, my protocol
Speaker:is 22 hours of fasting and about two hours of
Speaker:eating some of these 20, 22 to two, whereas a
Speaker:lot of people, they stick to this 16 to eight
Speaker:protocol.
Speaker:All right. And that's 16 hours of a, like a
Speaker:week's time, eight hours of downtime. When you first start,
Speaker:I fully got that wrong. That's a different one, right?
Speaker:16, eight,
Speaker:Six to 80. Yeah. It was just like this. So
Speaker:let's say you start eating at 10:00 AM and you
Speaker:finish eating at 6:00 PM, right? That's eight hours that
Speaker:eating window, his eight hours and the remaining window was
Speaker:16 hours. It was when you were a rest from
Speaker:food.
Speaker:No, you get your podcasts. That's about as, as you
Speaker:mentioned earlier, helping people on their personal journey and whatever
Speaker:that looks like, and this is the same for your
Speaker:coaching, but it's a, their health or their business goals
Speaker:are the goals, et cetera, but your own journey as
Speaker:being quite an up and up and down. One I
Speaker:got, I guess over the last few years, you mentioned
Speaker:that you got divorced in 2014 and then you moved
Speaker:to, like, you made a big move from a country
Speaker:where you were living to Canada five years later. So
Speaker:I guess in 2019, you, you came to Canada. How
Speaker:much of a change was all of that? And, and
Speaker:how much of an impact did that make in your
Speaker:life at that time?
Speaker:Okay. So I always wanted to live in North America.
Speaker:So when I had this wonderful chance to come to
Speaker:Canada, I used it. I used it. And you know,
Speaker:my experience here in Toronto, it has been, is different,
Speaker:is different. So first of all, a like a lot
Speaker:of things. So I used to live in Russia and
Speaker:Russia. He's basically a third world country. So here in
Speaker:Toronto, I get all of these benefits, like a great
Speaker:legal system, safety, secure investments, Now cleverness organization, which we
Speaker:don't usually have it in Russia, but at the same
Speaker:time, I feel lonely.
Speaker:I feel a little bit, and I actually feel nostalgia.
Speaker:I miss my, I miss my family. I miss my
Speaker:son, especially who is, who is they're back in Russia
Speaker:or with my ex-wife. So I always wanted to come
Speaker:to come to a country like Canada or us to
Speaker:live here, but I did not. I never realized how
Speaker:lonely would feel and how difficult it is to do
Speaker:that at 36. And, and now I had a third
Speaker:38.
Speaker:All right. And obviously, I mean, the, the pandemic at
Speaker:the moment, you can't help either because that really limits
Speaker:our interactions physically with people as well. I mean, obviously
Speaker:we can make up a zoom call or whatever, but
Speaker:you can, you mentioned out at about the, the, the
Speaker:video interaction that we're having and you have with clients,
Speaker:it's we need that physical visual touch. So how so,
Speaker:how has the pandemic pantry, and, you know, you know,
Speaker:I guess over the last year,
Speaker:I'm going to work from home, which is, which is
Speaker:fine by me, by the way, because this is a
Speaker:very efficient, I actually, I tried doing in summer the
Speaker:summer, I worked with a client here in Toronto, we're
Speaker:doing, you know, just like walk-in sessions. And they turned
Speaker:out that is, this is not really helpful. And my
Speaker:coach, and because I can really focus on, I just
Speaker:don't know how to get distracted by all of the
Speaker:things. And I were can't really do practice as like
Speaker:visualization or a meditation. So, I actual, I'm sort of
Speaker:thankful two Covid in this sense, which it doesn't mean
Speaker:I like it.
Speaker:Yeah. And I, I feel bored. I'm a little bit
Speaker:of stay at home field or feeling lonely, but compared
Speaker:to, to my clients, and then we talk about this
Speaker:all the time. They go it with them, they feel
Speaker:much, much worse. So I feel that even though we
Speaker:know it is, it has lowly, it just stayed at
Speaker:home. I was still, you know, I'm grateful that it's
Speaker:not that bad for me as For, I don't feel
Speaker:that bad as some other people do.
Speaker:And I. And I'm guessing because of your own journey
Speaker:as well, with the divorce and you come into Canada
Speaker:and, and, and, and build in your life here while
Speaker:it's, you know, your you're not surrounded by you're family.
Speaker:That must be helpful for that, the culture and that
Speaker:you do in an offer and people are in similar
Speaker:situations and help them overcome it too. Do you find
Speaker:that you're, or you're also learning and get in help
Speaker:for the poor description? So there is a better word
Speaker:than that, obviously, but when you're, when you're working with
Speaker:your clients and they are sharing their story and you're
Speaker:helping them make the changes, do you find that almost
Speaker:a therapeutic for you as you continue to go through
Speaker:your door and change?
Speaker:Absolutely. There's such a, such a good observation. Danny because
Speaker:I really feel that the, this pain that I feel
Speaker:from loneliness and really just any paid and even paying
Speaker:that ice subject myself to like hypoxia or exposure to
Speaker:cold showers, this helps me connect to my clients, understand
Speaker:them better. Because if, if, if like everything was perfect
Speaker:in my life, I wouldn't be just in a very
Speaker:different place. And it would be difficult for me to
Speaker:understand that that's one thing. And another thing that I
Speaker:appreciate about this, let's say, be the lowland, those other,
Speaker:you know, ways to inflict pain on myself is that
Speaker:I built psychological resilience.
Speaker:It, it really helps because down the road, things, we
Speaker:will not go with the way that I want them
Speaker:to go. And let's say Gen, but like, just, just
Speaker:think about family. You you, the members of your family,
Speaker:they eventually die. Right. And when I look at this,
Speaker:even though this, this time it was difficult for me
Speaker:while I'm away, it helps me realize that at some
Speaker:point in my life, they will pass. That's a way,
Speaker:and I will not be able to do, to be
Speaker:with them just like now. So it just makes me
Speaker:stronger. And of course it makes me appreciate them so
Speaker:much more while they're here.
Speaker:And I think that's, that's like a real important distinction.
Speaker:As you mentioned, I know a lot of people through
Speaker:the pandemic, I'm kind of sad. It makes us realize
Speaker:it exactly what we've gotten, what we could lose. 'cause,
Speaker:you know, a life can be snuffed out immediately You
Speaker:know, and you will never get a chance to you
Speaker:see all these horror stories of people not being allowed,
Speaker:their loved ones that have to say goodbye. It they're
Speaker:at the hospital was in the us, you know? So,
Speaker:so, so to your point, I think it's, it's a
Speaker:really important to, to be aware of exactly what could
Speaker:happen and, and how we can prepare ourselves, you know,
Speaker:for that.
Speaker:Exactly, exactly. And that's actually a very good example that
Speaker:you gave about not being able to see your loved
Speaker:ones. Let's say I have, I have a coach and
Speaker:client here in Toronto, and she has a sister, an
Speaker:older sister who is, who is sick right now. And
Speaker:she is in a very bad shape, really in a
Speaker:very bad shape. And my clients can not see her
Speaker:just because of this long down restrictions. And she feels
Speaker:so, so sorry about that.
Speaker:Yeah. So I know that obviously the vaccines or starting
Speaker:to the roll out across the globe and, and hopefully,
Speaker:and some form of normality will come back or whatever
Speaker:that looks like post COVID, because as soon as you
Speaker:mentioned is having a horrible affect on it. A lot
Speaker:of people are in a lot of, you know, ways
Speaker:of life, I guess, one of the things that, that,
Speaker:that made me smile to when I was chatting with
Speaker:you, I'm pretty sure. And we were just going back
Speaker:and forth on email. You had mentioned that you've given
Speaker:up masturbation know I was that an off-the-cuff remark where
Speaker:you're just like, be in that as a funder Mark
Speaker:or what have you given it masturbation? And if so,
Speaker:what was the, the sort of your thinking behind that?
Speaker:Is that tied into your, your lifestyle now or something
Speaker:different?
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Yeah. You mentioned that because this is an actual one
Speaker:of my biggest specializations as a coach, too, because I,
Speaker:I went through that experience almost seven years ago. I
Speaker:like, I know how to do it, and I can
Speaker:show my clients how to do it. And, and there
Speaker:isn't, I gave it up because it really was holding
Speaker:me back. And I was at a lot of time
Speaker:at a lot of energy and how it was, felt
Speaker:shamed have to wear. I masturbated, especially because I was
Speaker:married. So I kept masturbating through my marriage and it
Speaker:was really, really, really, really shameful for me. I could
Speaker:not like, yeah, I, I could get a quick escape
Speaker:from feeling bored by masturbating, but there was just like
Speaker:a couple, a couple of minutes of feeling good and
Speaker:then hours or feeling bad about myself.
Speaker:I was really feeling that I was still in the
Speaker:time from my ex wife and my little son. So
Speaker:that, that was my big reason.
Speaker:Know, you mentioned that you felt shame because you were
Speaker:married, obviously, so maybe you felt like I have a
Speaker:life they don't need to master a bit. Does that,
Speaker:do it, did the shame, is that come from like
Speaker:my PA your upbringing, or is that just something that
Speaker:you've felt through the, the action of, through the, the,
Speaker:the sort of your environment you were end at the
Speaker:time? And yeah,
Speaker:I will say it's a, it, it came from my
Speaker:upbringing in my high standards, my wanting to be consistent
Speaker:with my identity, have a person with integrity. So it,
Speaker:it never, it never really felt really, really, really never,
Speaker:always, maybe may be in my teenage years, it didn't
Speaker:feel right because I, I didn't like the fact that
Speaker:I was hiding and then over the years to just
Speaker:get, you know, exacerbate it because, you know, and now
Speaker:I have this wife and his son, and I was
Speaker:supposed to be a role model for, for my son.
Speaker:And I masturbating again, hiding So I I guess.
Speaker:So I was just, it was all about my integrity.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:I wonder if that, so, because, because we don't feel
Speaker:like our conversation, I've got two young kids are out
Speaker:of town in it, and my wife and I always
Speaker:try to balance the conversation as I get older and
Speaker:still, K what are we going to talk about it
Speaker:now? And you can see their, their change in emotions
Speaker:and, and maturity, if you like. And, and one of
Speaker:the things we were always on a par, I know
Speaker:when I was growing up, my, my grandparents and my
Speaker:parents were always very secretive about you. Shouldn't be doing
Speaker:now, you know, you know, God all look down on
Speaker:you and I are in a bad way of You
Speaker:or whatever. And I was wondering, as, you know, people
Speaker:have moved forward on generations of move forward and, you
Speaker:know, its people don't have the HEID being a homosexual
Speaker:for example, are, you know, be in a so-called different
Speaker:from what's classic as a norm.
Speaker:I wonder if as, as, as more people don't see
Speaker:something as secretive and encourage it, if, if, if it
Speaker:might make it more acceptable, I don't know what your
Speaker:thoughts are on that.
Speaker:Yeah. You know, when it comes to masturbation, I think
Speaker:that people are still pretty, pretty secretive about it. They
Speaker:don't want, they don't want to talk about it with
Speaker:their kids. They don't want to talk about, we talk
Speaker:about it with other people, including coaches. So let's say
Speaker:that's why quite, just, just, you know, basically a handful
Speaker:of people that feel, find the strength in themselves to
Speaker:reach out to someone for help about masturbation. And this
Speaker:is this the right thing to do. Definitely because oftentimes
Speaker:it as a problem, maybe not, not the masturbation. So
Speaker:usually watching pornography, if it can be a problem.
Speaker:And, and where that leads to,
Speaker:Obviously I had, there was that big story, I guess
Speaker:it's a bit of the last month or maybe a
Speaker:December. So one of the biggest ones is porn hump.
Speaker:And that's based in Canada of all places and its
Speaker:in Quebec. Umm, and they got like the government got
Speaker:involved in like a, a boat 70 or 80% of
Speaker:their content got pulled down because it was underage teens.
Speaker:It was, you know, it was very specific category. So
Speaker:as you mention it, that's a huge issue from a
Speaker:legal point of view and not ranching on everything else.
Speaker:So yeah, it, it's definitely a, I can see like
Speaker:pornography is as can be like a huge issue is
Speaker:like sex trafficking or et cetera.
Speaker:Exactly. It's like just a, as a father who has
Speaker:a 10 and eight year old kids or are they
Speaker:assigned?
Speaker:No
Okay. Yeah. So like, just think about thinking about the
Speaker:boy, who would you would you want him to, you
Speaker:know, be like stayed in his room and watching porn
Speaker:and masturbating and hiding this and then, you know, wasting
Speaker:the time and his potential on this. What would you,
Speaker:would you want him to do that? I guess not
Speaker:right.
Speaker:Yeah. Yeah. Well, yeah, you bet at the moment we
Speaker:are good. We're good. In the helix to play video
Speaker:games, we have myself and my daughter said, we've got
Speaker:this little Tim thing going on. And so that's good
Speaker:that keeps them occupied here. But yeah, he's so nice.
Speaker:Tanny, you'll be a living in me, what you see
Speaker:in each others are fast approach and so maybe it
Speaker:will be here and we'll that maybe that'll be a
Speaker:new challenge.
Speaker:Yeah. Yeah. I challenge you to have this conversation with
Speaker:him, sit down with him and without shaming, just, just
Speaker:really explaining the perils of masturbation is a special report.
Speaker:You know, if you see masturbation in of itself, it
Speaker:oftentimes is, is it's not really a problem. The problem
Speaker:is that when you rewire your brain to associate sexual
Speaker:pleasure with poor and mess any of your hands, rather
Speaker:than normal sex, Andy, because many people start to have
Speaker:this and start this habit in teenage years, it becomes
Speaker:so ingrained that it's so difficult to get it out
Speaker:of their head later.
Speaker:So I always encourage parents to have this conversation about
Speaker:masturbation as, as early as possible. So
Speaker:I know that's for sure that that would be a
Speaker:bit like maybe I'll send them to Toronto for a
Speaker:couple of coaching sessions. I will get them on the
Speaker:zoom I was in line with, you know, we had
Speaker:mentioned that you should get it launched in July of
Speaker:2019 and it is it's how many episodes are, you
Speaker:know?
Speaker:Okay. How about 40, 40 of them?
Speaker:Yep. So it was, so what are your goals for
Speaker:the future? You have just started introducing more guests to
Speaker:the show, a alongside your own staff, what's your goal
Speaker:or are you changing it for a month? Maybe doing
Speaker:more video. And then she mentioned earlier on or
Speaker:At it at this point. My main goal is to
Speaker:focus on, on masturbation and porn. So maybe the next
Speaker:down to episodes, I want to really, really focus on
Speaker:that because this has like the, the, the bulk of
Speaker:my work. And I really want to do find to
Speaker:find a niche and my marketing weight, because I say
Speaker:that I'm a relationship coach and it just, you know,
Speaker:that's, that's too broad for me. I have been trying
Speaker:with this, with this specific topic for an masturbation and
Speaker:it showed me some pretty good results. So I'm happy
Speaker:about those results. I appreciate them. And I think I
Speaker:need to develop more in this area.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Okay. And obviously, you know, you'll be having guests on
Speaker:too soon to like share their experiences. And what would
Speaker:you be able to see a lot of clients on
Speaker:that you've helped with this? Or would you be keeping
Speaker:that separate? And there are privacy, is it separate, I
Speaker:guess are kind of
Speaker:For a separate, of course my clients, they, they reached
Speaker:out to me, but they are very, very secretive about,
Speaker:about this habit of basically like if I think about
Speaker:all of my clients now, I think there was just
Speaker:one person who told about this to anyone else beside
Speaker:me. So I actually feel very honored for a while.
Speaker:And I talk to my class because they are, I
Speaker:am the only person they let know about their problem.
Speaker:You've obviously got, get up an interest in background and
Speaker:with different experiences, with different people and you meet a
Speaker:lot of different people through your client work and through
Speaker:your podcast, if you had to name one passion that
Speaker:would be C your all time inspiration, you're all the
Speaker:time hero. Who would that be and why that person?
Speaker:Hmm. I think that there are a lot of people
Speaker:who inspire me, but just the one that comes to
Speaker:mind right now, for some reason it is, are on
Speaker:it just because I was writing his biography of with
Speaker:my son a yesterday Over over WhatsApp, but any way
Speaker:that's Arnold Schwartzenegger K is first of all, he has
Speaker:such a great influence on me because I grew up
Speaker:on his movies back in the back in the nineties,
Speaker:even though I was in Russia, they were translated. So
Speaker:he was, yeah, he was a role model for me
Speaker:when I started to work out, when I started to
Speaker:build muscle and strength. And since then, he has also
Speaker:become a role model for me in many other areas,
Speaker:including the achievement motivation, just, I mean, let's say for
Speaker:example, one of his principles is that to get good
Speaker:at something you need to do a lot of repetitions.
Speaker:Like you do reps at the gym, the same thing
Speaker:with when it comes to my mastery in any of
Speaker:the areas of your life. I like his policy. I
Speaker:like his strategy about investments. He always, he always sad
Speaker:that you need to invest all the time and you
Speaker:need to, let's say never, never buy a house. Your
Speaker:first house don't buy it to live in it. If
Speaker:you buy a house, buy it as an investment. Yep.
Speaker:So he w was also a very frugal. I resonate
Speaker:for that a lot. I live in a minimalist lifestyle.
Speaker:I do my best too, you know, to cover my
Speaker:expenses. So this is an another, lets say he always
Speaker:cooked.
Speaker:He has his own food. And when he, he did
Speaker:not a, he didn't had a, any luxury As things
Speaker:or ways to spend time when he was young, but
Speaker:what he would do if he would just, but when
Speaker:he came to do the United States from Australia, he
Speaker:would just take his girlfriend to the beach and they
Speaker:will just hang out there for a very cheap and
Speaker:very effective,
Speaker:Good for the half. I mean the outside of fresh
Speaker:air at the beach, the seat, they have their fingers.
Speaker:Perfect. Right. There we go. And I remember watching the,
Speaker:the documentary I'm back when I was a kid put
Speaker:all the back in the UK on when I was
Speaker:by my town of 12, I can remember what it
Speaker:was that it was called. It was the, or something
Speaker:Irin documentary, but it was pumping, pumping iron. That's it.
Speaker:Thank you. So he was going through the, the, the
Speaker:readiness for the show. And I think if I recall
Speaker:Luther Cigna was also in the documentary along with some
Speaker:other bodybuilders at the time. And it was interesting to
Speaker:see how they both got into act in afterwards. And
Speaker:they, they, they had to sort of a similar career
Speaker:path, you know, obviously Lou Ferrigno was the hog corn
Speaker:and for him for Narnia and then a Terminator and
Speaker:all of that.
Speaker:So it's an interesting to see how these, these like
Speaker:the, the bodybuilders to us and to the, the, the
Speaker:movie industry at all, but at the same time.
Speaker:Exactly, exactly. And that's another, another thing I like about
Speaker:Arnold Schwartzenegger because he actually made this, you know, there
Speaker:are difficult shift in his career, right? So he used
Speaker:to be a bodybuilder. He has to be an athlete.
Speaker:And then he became a great actor, which, I mean,
Speaker:I guess what I'm saying is that old people have
Speaker:this potential. They have potential to be, to be great.
Speaker:And basically whatever they like to do. But so many
Speaker:people, they just wander that potential. Maybe they, they get,
Speaker:they just get good at something in their life and
Speaker:they stay there, even if it gets stale.
Speaker:And let's say the interest in industry that they're in,
Speaker:like, you know, dies off, but they still stay there.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I, I know like a sports and a guy who
Speaker:was always, which is why are you going into politics?
Speaker:But it was always in the big America of the
Speaker:great American dream by immigrant comes in to the country
Speaker:and gets to the highest position of the land. So
Speaker:it be an amazing story. And I was like, he
Speaker:was very vocal when Trump was in power, like the
Speaker:videos that are shared and the, you know, the, the,
Speaker:the movements he held back, et cetera. It's interesting to
Speaker:watch a move from his movie star, going to a
Speaker:career and to this, you know, serious politician, it's really
Speaker:pushing back against what Trump's stood for, what that kind
Speaker:of presidency stood for it.
Speaker:Yes, exactly. Exactly. So there you go from a bodybuilder
Speaker:to a movie actor to governor, and now to this,
Speaker:like what media person this is. Yeah. This is the
Speaker:best example of the potential that everyone has and how,
Speaker:how we all can actually find motivation as long as
Speaker:we, as we find that motivation. And we can actually,
Speaker:you know, get great results. No, for sure.
Speaker:For sure. So, so Roman, This, I've really enjoyed chatting
Speaker:with you today as been a really interesting talk with
Speaker:very different topics, right. Which is what I love about
Speaker:Dennis Shaw, going to meet people like yourself that can
Speaker:really share a diverse range of your experiences. So I
Speaker:do appreciate your coming on today.
Speaker:Thank you for that. Well, Danny thank you for having
Speaker:me. It's been an honor. Thank you so much
Speaker:For sure. Now, so for, for people that want to
Speaker:connect with you, either follow you online are reaching out
Speaker:for coaching sessions based on the topics that the fed
Speaker:just discussed today. Where's the best way for them to
Speaker:either connect with you, to listen to your podcast, et
Speaker:cetera.
Speaker:Yeah, it's my website. Roman Mironov dot com. Spelled S
Speaker:a S R O N M a N N M
Speaker:I R I S O N O V. Kit. The
Speaker:Contact tab. Contact me for a free coaching session. And
Speaker:if you do sign up for coaching and let me
Speaker:know that you came off, the podcast was tourist podcast.
Speaker:I'll be happy to give you a 30% discount. Oh
Speaker:wow.
Speaker:I will definitely be sending to my son over a
Speaker:zoom call in some States. That's amazing. Thank you so
Speaker:much.
Speaker:Yes, yes. If you sign him that that'd be great.
Speaker:That'd be great.
Speaker:Let's go out and I'll be sure to drop the
Speaker:links, you know, to Roman site and his podcast and
Speaker:to the show notes. So a whatever app you'll tend
Speaker:to listen to the, the show on and make sure
Speaker:to drop down to the show notes to click these
Speaker:links. So again, Roman, I really appreciate it today. Thank
Speaker:you for that.
Speaker:Okay. Thank you. Danny the pleasure was mine, you know?
Speaker:Yeah. And listening to a podcast or Stories, if you
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